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The responsibility of the elders and the parents is very great in this. Take the students of today; no trace of culture can be seen in them; matters of the spirit and talk of the Atma raise laughter among them! A majesty of words, a servitude to tailoring - these have become the fashion. This is not genuine culture. The educated women of today are helpless when it comes to managing a home. Home to them is but a hotel; they are so helplessly dependent on the cook and the maid. The educated woman is but a painted doll, decorating the modern home; she is a handicap to the husband, a weight around his neck. He is squeezed by her insistent demands for spending money on all kinds of objects. She does not share in the tasks of house-keeping and so by sheer idleness, and eating and sleeping without exercise, she develops illness which leads her quickly to death. The wanton behaviour of women has enveloped the world of today in an atmosphere of declining Dharma. Women are harming themselves by running after fleeting pleasure, regardless of the need to develop good character and elevating qualities. They are enamoured of the pseudo-freedom, which feeds their conceit. To get fixed up in a job, to earn degrees, to move about with all and sundry without distinction and discrimination, to discard respect for elders and give up fear of sin and evil, to over-look the claims of the good and the holy, to force the husband to dance to one's tune, to deny the tribute of repentance to one's errors, are these the signs of education? No; they are all the monstrous shapes of Avidya, the uneducated egoist attitudes that make a person ugly and repelling. If the wife feels that the husband's home is sacred, then that home itself will endow her with every skill and qualification. There is no place anywhere which excels such a home for her. One saintly poet has sung that it is her temple, her school, her playground, her political arena, her field of sacrifice, her hermitage. Educated women can do useful service to the community around them according
to their skill, taste, inclination, desire, character, educational status,
mode of living, discipline or scholarship. They should avoid tarnishing
the reputation of their parents, their family or themselves. A woman without
a good character is as bad as 'dead'; so women must be ever vigilant when
they move about in the world. They should avoid flippant talk or free
mixing. The discriminating woman will engage only in such acts as will
add to the luster of her husband's fame and honour, never an act which
will tarnish it. That is why it is said, "Sadguna or virtue is the sign
of the educated person, the thing which makes education worthwhile." |